How to Talk to Your Loved Ones About Death, Money, and Estate Planning at the Holidays
November 23, 2025

How to Talk to Your Loved Ones About Death, Money, and Estate Planning at the Holidays

As the holidays approach, families gather to share food, laughter, and stories. But amid the joy, there is often an unspoken truth: many families avoid the conversations that matter most. What will happen when you are gone? How will your loved ones be cared for? What legacy will you leave behind?



This season offers a rare opportunity to bring love, not fear, into these important conversations. In this article, you will learn how to shift your mindset about death and money, how to open heartfelt conversations with your family, and how to turn those talks into meaningful action with a Life & Legacy Plan.

Shifting the Conversation About Death and Money

Most people put off estate planning because they don’t want to face their mortality, or they think of death as something that won’t happen anytime soon. Money is also too often a taboo subject in our culture. It’s no wonder, then, that 55% of Americans don’t have an estate plan. And this number doesn’t account for those who have an outdated plan that no longer works, so the actual number is much lower.


But what if we flipped the script when we think of death and money? What if death and money weren’t topics to be avoided, but to be embraced? Death is a natural part of life, and planning for what happens to your assets and to your loved ones is an expression of love. Planning ensures everyone you love has clarity and knows exactly what to do when the time comes. Instead of viewing estate planning as preparing for the end, see it as protecting your loved ones’ beginning after you die.


This mindset shift is powerful because it changes estate planning from something you feel you have to do into something you want to do out of devotion to your loved ones. When you think about your plan as a message of care, you begin to see every decision differently. Choosing a guardian for your children, designating beneficiaries, or even making end-of-life medical choices becomes less about control and more about making things as easy on your loved ones as possible after your death.


It also helps to recognize that the way we talk about death influences how our loved ones experience it. When you model openness and calm, your loved ones learn to approach loss with grace rather than fear.


To start shifting your own mindset, focus on legacy, not loss. Ask yourself:

  • What stories, lessons, or values do I want my loved ones to carry forward?
  • How can I make life easier for them when I am gone?
  • What message of love do I want them to hear when they think of me?
  • How can I ensure their financial security when I’m no longer there?

When you anchor your thoughts in love, the topic of death becomes not a burden, but a gift.

How to Bring Your Family Into the Conversation

Once you have reframed estate planning as an act of care, the next step is helping your loved ones see it the same way. The holidays are the perfect time. Surrounded by gratitude and reflection, your family is already thinking about what matters most - each other.


You can open the conversation gently with something like, “I have been thinking about how much you mean to me, and I want to make sure you are cared for no matter what happens.” This kind of introduction immediately sets a tone of reassurance. It communicates that your motivation is love, not fear. From there, the conversation can unfold naturally and meaningfully.


Here are several ways to make it comfortable and productive:


Choose the Right Setting. Pick a quiet moment rather than a busy or emotional one. After dinner, during a walk, or while sitting by the fire can be ideal times when everyone feels relaxed and connected.


Invite Participation. Instead of delivering information, ask questions. “What do you think would make things easier for you if something ever happened to me?” When you involve your loved ones, it helps them feel included rather than intimidated.


Acknowledge the Emotion. It is natural for people to feel uneasy at first. You might say, “I know this is not easy to talk about, but I feel peaceful knowing we can share our thoughts now while we have the chance.” By naming the discomfort, you take away its power.


Focus on Values, Not Just Logistics. You can share your philosophy about life, your hopes for how your loved ones will handle challenges, and your dreams for their future. This turns a potentially uncomfortable topic into a moment of connection.


Once you have created that sense of trust, move into the practical matters that bring real clarity.


Explain the why behind your choices. If you have chosen specific people for roles such as executor or guardian, explain your reasoning. Understanding prevents hurt feelings and reduces the risk of future conflict. Also acknowledge that some people may feel slighted. Welcome their emotions with compassion.


Discuss your wishes for care. Share who you would want to make medical or financial decisions for you if you become incapacitated. Explain why you’ve chosen that person.


Provide a financial overview. You do not need to disclose every number, but share where your key assets are located and how to access them. Every year, billions of dollars go unclaimed because families simply do not know what exists. A simple list or inventory can make all the difference. When you work with us, we will support you to create an asset inventory as an inherent part of our Life & Legacy Planning® process.


Share your legacy beyond money. Perhaps the most meaningful part of this conversation is the intangible legacy - your wisdom, values, stories, and love. A Life & Legacy Interview, also an inherent part of my process, ensures your loved ones will always be able to hear your voice and remember what mattered most to you. In my experience, this matters more to them than the money you leave behind.


When you approach the conversation with empathy and intention, it becomes not a grim discussion but a sacred exchange of love and gratitude.

How Life & Legacy Planning Turns Talk Into Action

A heartfelt family conversation is a powerful beginning, but what truly protects your loved ones is turning that conversation into action. That is where Life & Legacy Planning comes in.


Traditional estate planning focuses only on creating documents. Life & Legacy Planning is different because it focuses on creating results. It is a relationship-based process that ensures your plan reflects your goals, your assets, and your values, while also being updated as your life and the law change, so it works when you and your loved ones need it to.


When you create your Life & Legacy Plan with me, you will:


  • Create a complete inventory of your assets so nothing is lost or forgotten.
  • Receive ongoing support from my office to ensure your plan always stays current and doesn’t fail you or your loved ones.
  • Capture and preserve your stories, values, and love through a Life & Legacy Interview.
  • Ensure your loved ones know what to do and how to access what they need when the time comes.


Life & Legacy Planning transforms estate planning from a transaction into a lifelong relationship with a trusted advisor who will support your family when they need it most.



Imagine how much peace it will bring to your loved ones to know exactly where things are, whom to call, and how to handle every detail when the time comes. Instead of confusion or chaos, they will have clarity and guidance. That is the true gift of planning.

The Greatest Gift of All

Talking about death, money, and your wishes might not seem festive, but it is one of the most meaningful and loving acts you can offer. When your loved ones understand what to do, how to do it, and why it matters, they can focus on what truly counts: honoring your life and carrying your love forward.



Having open and honest conversations about death and money transforms estate planning from fear to freedom. It gives your loved ones the space to grieve without added stress, to make decisions without conflict, and to move forward with confidence.

Your Next Step

This holiday season, take the opportunity to talk about what truly matters - your love, your values, and your wishes for your loved ones’  future. Then take action to ensure those wishes are carried out.


As your Personal Family Lawyer® Firm, we will help you create a Life & Legacy Plan that protects everyone you love, keeps them out of court and conflict, and ensures your legacy lives on.


Start the conversation now, and then let me support you to create a plan that gives your loved ones peace of mind for generations to come.


📞 Schedule your complimentary 15-minute Discovery Call today:

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Disclaimer & Firm Info

This article is a service of AMD Law, a Personal Family Lawyer Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That's why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session.



The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.

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This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.
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The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.
July 30, 2025
You've just lost someone important to you, and now you're responsible for their home. Maybe it's sitting empty while you figure out what to do next. Maybe you're planning to sell it, or perhaps other family members want to move in eventually. Whatever your plans, you're about to discover that an empty house needs almost as much attention as an occupied one—sometimes more. The challenges of managing a vacant inherited home go far beyond simply deciding whether to keep it or sell it. From the moment you take responsibility for the property, you're facing security risks, maintenance issues, insurance complications, and legal responsibilities that most people never anticipate. Let's walk through what you can expect and how to protect both the property and your family's interests. The Immediate Security Concerns You Can't Ignore The first 48 hours after someone dies can be critical for protecting their home. Unfortunately, there are people who see a death announcement or funeral notice as an opportunity. Break-ins during funeral services happen, and an obviously empty house can become a target for theft or vandalism. Your immediate priorities should include securing all entry points and changing the locks as soon as possible. You don't know who might have keys or alarm codes. That trusted neighbor who helped your relative might be completely trustworthy, but their teenage son's friends are unknown quantities. The home health aide who cared for your loved one might have made copies of keys with good intentions, but now those keys represent a security risk. Beyond changing locks, you'll want to establish some basic security measures. Make sure neighbors know who should and shouldn't be around the property. If there's a security system, update the codes and contact information. Consider having someone stay at the house during the funeral service if possible. Remove easily portable valuable items as quickly as you can. Jewelry, small electronics, cash, prescription medications, and firearms should be your first priorities. Don't forget about items that might not seem valuable to you but could be attractive to thieves, like tools, lawn equipment, or collectibles. The goal isn't to empty the entire house immediately, but to remove the items that would be easiest for someone to grab quickly and that would be hardest for you to replace. While security concerns might seem like the biggest challenge initially, they're actually just the beginning of your responsibilities as the new property owner. The Ongoing Maintenance That Never Stops Once you've secured the immediate concerns, you'll discover that houses don't pause their needs just because they're empty. In fact, vacant homes often require more maintenance attention than occupied ones because small problems can quickly become big problems when no one is around to notice them. Heating and cooling systems still need to run to prevent damage to the structure and remaining contents. In winter, you can't simply turn off the heat—frozen pipes can cause thousands of dollars in damage. In summer and humid climates, lack of air circulation can lead to mold growth that can destroy the property's value. Regular inspections become crucial when no one's living in the house day-to-day. A small roof leak that a homeowner might notice immediately can cause extensive damage in an empty house before anyone discovers it. Clogged gutters, missing shingles, or foundation issues won't announce themselves—you need to actively look for them. The property's exterior needs ongoing attention too. An unmowed lawn, unremoved newspapers, or uncleared snow immediately signals that the house is vacant. This not only creates security risks but can also violate local ordinances and affect the property's value. You'll need to arrange for regular lawn care, snow removal, and general upkeep to maintain the property's appearance and value. Don't forget about pest control. Vacant homes can quickly become attractive to rodents and insects, especially if there's food left in pantries or if entry points aren't properly sealed. What starts as a small mouse problem can become a major infestation that damages the property and creates health hazards. Beyond the day-to-day maintenance challenges, there's another critical issue that many families discover too late: their insurance coverage may not be what they think it is. The Insurance Complications That Could Cost You Here's something that catches many families off guard: your loved one's homeowner's insurance might not cover damages that occur after the house becomes vacant. Insurance companies consider vacant properties to be higher risk, and many standard homeowners policies have clauses that limit or exclude coverage for properties that have been unoccupied for more than 30 days. You need to contact the insurance company immediately to report the change in occupancy status. Some insurers will provide continued coverage for vacant properties, but usually at higher premiums and with more limited coverage. Others might cancel the policy entirely, requiring you to find specialized vacant property insurance. The stakes here are enormous. If the house burns down or suffers major damage and the insurance company determines it was vacant without proper coverage, you could be personally liable for the full loss. This could easily amount to hundreds of thousands of dollars. Even if you're planning to sell the property quickly, don't assume you can skip this step. Estate sales often take longer than expected, and even a few months of improper coverage could result in devastating financial consequences. The key is to be proactive and honest with the insurance company about the property's status. Work with them to understand your options and ensure continuous appropriate coverage throughout the time you're responsible for the property. While these challenges might seem overwhelming, there's a way to prevent most of them from becoming problems in the first place. How Life & Legacy Planning Prevents These Problems All of these challenges become much more manageable if your loved one had a proper Life & Legacy Plan in place. Unlike traditional estate planning that focuses primarily on legal documents, Life & Legacy Planning anticipates the practical realities your loved ones will face and provides systems to handle them smoothly. When you work with me to create your Life & Legacy Plan, we will include a complete asset inventory that documents everything your family needs to know about the property, including the deed, insurance policy and other documentation relevant to the home. This inventory prevents your family from having to search through boxes and files while they're grieving, trying to piece together basic information about what you own. Life & Legacy Planning may also include strategies to ensure funds are immediately available to cover property expenses. This is crucial because, without proper planning, your family might have to pay out of pocket for maintenance, repairs, insurance, and utilities for months or even years if you need to administer the estate through probate.. Imagine having to cover a major roof repair or heating system replacement from your own savings because the estate's funds are tied up in court. Many people aren’t in the position to be able to do this while keeping up with their own expenses. Perhaps most importantly, when you work with me to create your Life & Legacy Plan, your family will have me as their trusted advisor when these challenges arise. They won't have to search for help while they're dealing with grief and trying to figure out what to do with your house. Instead, they'll have someone who can guide them through each decision with confidence. Taking Action to Protect Your Family If you want to make sure your loved ones know exactly what to do with your house after you die - and they have the support they need for every step - the time to act is now. As a Personal Family Lawyer® Firm, I help you create a Life & Legacy Plan that works so your loved ones aren’t burdened with the stress of trying to figure out what to do. You’ll start with a Life & Legacy PlanningⓇ Session, where you’ll get more financially organized than ever before, and learn what will happen to your home, your loved ones, and all your assets if you become incapacitated or when you die. Armed with this knowledge, you and I will create a plan together that fits your unique needs, wishes, and values at a price that works for you. When you work with me, I make it easy for you to give your loved ones the greatest gift - the peace of mind that comes from knowing you’ve taken care of all the details, so they don’t have to. Click here to schedule a complimentary 15-minute discovery call and learn how I can help you create a plan that truly protects the people you love: calendar.trustamdlaw.com/widget/booking/SM5Rw4nPHp116frqxKXn This article is a service of AMD LAW a Personal Family Lawyer Firm. We don’t just draft documents; we ensure you make informed and empowered decisions about life and death, for yourself and the people you love. That's why we offer a Life & Legacy Planning Session, during which you will get more financially organized than you’ve ever been before and make all the best choices for the people you love. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a Life & Legacy Planning Session. The content is sourced from Personal Family Lawyer® for use by Personal Family Lawyer firms, a source believed to be providing accurate information. This material was created for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as ERISA, tax, legal, or investment advice. If you are seeking legal advice specific to your needs, such advice services must be obtained on your own separate from this educational material.
November 3, 2022
An estate plan often focuses on tangible property such as jewelry, artwork, money, and vehicles. However, in this age of technology, it is important to remember to include your digital assets. Digital assets consist of everything we own online. Because we spend more time on computers and smartphones than we ever did before, you may not realize how much digital stuff you own, from photos and videos to online accounts, cryptocurrency, and nonfungible tokens (NFTs). 
December 10, 2021
When you think about estate planning you may think about a set of documents that provides for the distribution of assets after you die. While it is true that an estate plan should efficiently distribute your assets after you die, a comprehensive estate plan should also examine the need to preserve assets for the enjoyment of the people you are responsible for, as well as ensure that you are supported and cared for during your lifetime, even in periods of diminished capacity or if you require long term care. Long-term care is the kind of care you need if you are not able to perform normal daily activities (such as eating, dressing, and bathing) without help, and it is expected that you will need this help for an extended period or the rest of your life. This kind of care is often needed due to aging, chronic illness, or injury, and most of us will need it for at least some time before we pass on. But it is not just for the elderly; a good number of younger, working-age adults are currently receiving long-term care due to accident, illness, or injury. Long-term care can be provided in your home, an assisted living facility, or a nursing home. All of these can be very expensive, with care provided in a private room at a nursing home typically being the most expensive. Home healthcare can easily run over $54,000 per year according to Genworth Financial’s Cost of Care Survey . Depending on the skill, medical certifications, and training required of the caregivers, the number of hours needed and where you live, home healthcare can cost more. Assisted living facilities can cost more than $50,000 per year; the more services you need, the higher the cost. Nursing home facilities, with round-the-clock care, are now $90,000 or more a year. Expect to see these costs go even higher, thanks to rising medical costs and longer life expectancies. The average stay in a nursing home is three years. Alzheimer's patients usually need care longer. Unfortunately, health insurance, disability income insurance, or Medicare do not cover long-term care. Health insurance plans cover nursing home expenses only for a short period while you are recovering from an illness or injury. Disability income insurance will replace part of your income if you are not able to work after a specified time, but it does not pay for long-term care. Medicare, which covers most people over the age of sixty-five, provides limited coverage for skilled care for up to one hundred days immediately following hospitalization. After that, you are on your own. So who will pay the cost if you need long-term care? There are only three sources: your (or your family's) assets, Medicaid, and long-term care insurance. Medicaid pays the bills for a large number of people in nursing homes today. But because the program is designed to provide services for those who cannot support themselves (children, disabled, incapacitated, and low-income individuals), you will have to "spend down" your assets and be practically penniless to qualify for benefits. Your spouse is also limited to the amount of assets he or she can have. Also, you will only be able to receive care from a facility that accepts Medicaid. But if you have minimal assets, it may be the best option for you. For many people, long-term care insurance is the best option, especially if you have assets and income you want to protect, you want to avoid being a financial burden on others, and you want to have some choice in the care you receive. With long-term care insurance, you will have the option of receiving care in your home or a private pay facility. The premiums are lower when you are younger and in good health. If you wait too long, the cost could be prohibitive and you might not qualify. When creating a comprehensive estate plan you must consider planning for long-term care. If you are considering trying to qualify for Medicaid, make sure you talk with us before you do anything. An innocent mistake could disqualify you from receiving benefits for many months.